V&A Design and Disability Exhibition

If you live with a visible or invisible disability, it is not just the condition itself that disables us, it is also the system and discourse around our disability that disables us. And perhaps more so. This can lead us to internalising feelings of inferiority, creating a narrative that holds us within the constraints of the expectations society has carved out for us.


On Sunday, I went to the Design and Disability exhibition at the V&A. It showcased contributions from the Disabled community to the world of art, design innovations undertaken by companies prepared to break the mould, and times members of the Disabled community have broken down barriers to be featured on magazine covers. So often Disabled people are not featured in public spaces.


Among designs that caught my attention, the Crocs Adaptive range was one. Featuring a slip-resistant outsole and a unique adjustable heel strap. You can shop the range here: Sites-crocs_us-Site


Another brand that caught my attention was Cool Crutches, founded by Amelia Peckham and Clare Bruddel, following Peckham’s own spinal injury. Whereas most crutches out for sale are plain in design, Cool Crutches creates customisable walking sticks and crutches in a variety of colours and sizes, recognising Disabled people as an independent group with choice, their own style and preferences. They have a new summer collection and offer 10% off your first order. You can shop here- Crutches | Walking Sticks | Mobility Aids – Cool Crutches


And finally we move onto the sex lives of Disabled people. If you have a physical disability, you have virtually no representation in the world of sex. If you live with a physical disability, the world renders you sexless whether you actually feel that way or not. So this brings us to the Enby (named after the acronym for Non-Binary), an accessible, gender-free sex toy designed to suit all kinds of bodies. Wild Flower, the product’s designers, created the vibrator with people who have limited mobility in mind. It is fully flexible and has a hands-free grip at its base. You can find it here: Enby 2 - Silicone Vibrator - Powerful Vibrator - Quiet Vibrator - Wild Flower


If you live with a visible or invisible disability and are ready to start reshaping the narrative imposed on you in whichever sphere of your life you choose (without judgement and in a safe space), drop me an email at charleygroveshypnotherapy@proton.me to explore how hypnotherapy can help in your journey towards healing and self-acceptance.

Why it's OK to be a bit Broken

June 27, 2025
Years ago, I saw a therapist who sent me on my way with the conclusive final words: “you’re not broken”. I never saw her again and I definitely didn’t leave a positive testimonial. The message she was callously sending was that I didn’t qualify as having enough problems to merit going to see her. Here’s the thing: we are all a little bit broken and that’s ok. In Neuro-Linguistic Programming, there’s something known as Parts Integration, a technique that aims to create alignment and harmony between internal conflicts. I like to think of brokenness as a scale and be inclusive of all shades along that scale. At the shallower end could be experiences of little ‘t’ traumas and issues such as low self-confidence or poor self-worth. “Little t trauma” refers to the emotional distress and psychological impact of smaller, often recurring, negative events. On the deeper end of the spectrum you have severe cases of trauma and issues such as PTSD or clinical depression. The aim of therapy is not to get you to the polar opposite end of the spectrum.. 100% healed, but to move you up a few shades along the scale. That’s because our past experiences will always be with us and to an extent they have shaped who we are. Whilst past experiences do not define us, they influence our temperaments, our perspectives on life and relationships, how we interact with the world, and our core sense of self. Likewise there will always be triggers around us cropping up unexpectedly in our day to day, but how we choose to respond to these triggers is malleable and open to change over time. Past hurts enable us to develop greater empathy and intuition, so depending on the trauma, it is not all negative. In severe cases, trauma can result in hypervigilance. But a positive to this, once moderated and brought under control, is negative experiences can allow us a greater awareness of the potential of things going wrong thus enabling us to act more cautiously and protect ourselves. In some scenarios, this can be a positive. In Cognitive Hypnotherapy, when past traumas are revisited, the purpose of the visit is to reframe the experience in a way that allows our adult selves to give a more nuanced perspective of what the episode may or may not have meant. It’s about breaking the link between the negative event and our resulting beliefs about ourselves. The aim is not to detach ourselves from the event and certainly not to ‘forget’ it. Living in the present is great but inevitably we all sometimes have unpalatable memories crop up, either triggered or when we are feeling low. I like to believe there is no such thing as an overreaction because an “overreaction” is simply a protective response to stimuli from the external environment reminding us of past negative events. If you were brought up made to think you are ‘stupid’ and ‘less than others’, then every time someone dismisses an idea of yours or speaks in a condescending tone it will activate a fight or flight response in the amygdala, the area of the brain responsible for storing and processing emotions. This overrides all logic and causes others to label us as ‘dramatic’, ‘sensitive’ or just ‘a dick’. But given the contextual aspects of the person’s problem and the history that helped shape their negative beliefs, the person is not “overreacting”, they are simply emotionally hijacked in the moment and acting out in self-protection mode. In Cognitive Hypnotherapy we aim to get the client out of ‘fight or flight’ mode and into self-actualisation mode, a fully present, relaxed, confident state from which the client can start to flourish and truly enjoy life again. If you think hypnotherapy might be the remedy you need, send me an email at charleygroveshypnotherapy@proton.me
Young woman experiencing dissociation

Dissociation in the workplace and tips on how to manage it

June 21, 2025
It’s a hazy wafer-thin line demarcating the diagnostic boundary between ADHD and Borderline Personality Disorder. Whichever diagnostic label you’ve been assigned, if dissociation or feeling detached is something you experience, here’s a few practical strategies to help you snap out of it and get back in the right zone. In the case of Borderline Personality Disorder, dissociation can impact performance at work and look superficially like symptoms of ADHD, as well as impacting relationships and quality of life more broadly.

Tips for minimising jaw stiffness when stressed

By looka_production_222007544 • June 21, 2025
Recently I had a client come to see me for jaw stiffness. The problem had started during lockdown and hadn’t gone away. Although she wasn’t conscious of doing it in the moment it would leave her with a very sore-feeling jaw afterwards. See it’s not just to quit smoking, drugs, drinking or lose weight that people come to hypnotherapy for… people also come for compulsive nervous habits such as nail biting or, in this case, tensing their jaw. So if tensing your jaw when anxious or stressed is something you’re prone to doing, here’s a few practical tips. #1 Try resting your tongue in the roof of your mouth It’s impossible to tense your jaw whilst your tongue is resting in the roof of your mouth. Don’t believe me? Give it a try. #2 Pencil or pen between the teeth Whilst you’re jabbing away at the keyboard at work or at home, try a pencil or pen between the teeth. Again, you won’t be able to tense your jaw. #3 Hydration Hydration is crucial in a lot of things, but especially when it comes to minimising jaw stiffness. #4 Wiggle your face and jaw Wiggle your jaw from side to side. I used to see an excellent yoga teacher for her group classes who was a strong advocate of wiggling your jaw to help relieve tension in the facial muscles. #5 Facial massage Try a firm circular pressure applied to the jaw and lower cheeks. #6 Fire breath from Kundalini yoga Again, another one taken from yoga. It involves quick powerful breaths through the nose with the belly pulled in on the inhale and released on the exhale. It is excellent for relieving stress, strengthening the abdominal muscles and even improving digestion. You can watch a demonstration of it here - Breath of Fire Tutorial - Women's Health Yoga #7 Smile more It takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile so find reasons to be cheerful throughout your day. Smile at your colleagues, or people you pass by in your day to day. #8 Find Laughter Again, like smiling, laughter also relieves tension in the jaw. Go watch a comedy show or if you don’t have that much time to spare, watch entertaining content on TikTok or Instagram that makes you laugh. #9 Try gentle hip opening stretches or singing Tension in the jaw is connected to tension in the hips. If you have tension in one area you’re likely to also have tension in the other. So try targeting one or the other, or both. If you enjoy singing, sing in the shower, join a choir or go to karaoke.  If you’re more physical, try dance classes or yoga.